What to Expect from a Booking

New to this? You're in good company. A lot of the people I see have never booked an escort or explored a kink before, and putting people at ease is genuinely the part of this I'm best at. There's no expectation to be experienced or to "perform": I set the pace, keep it relaxed, and make sure you feel in control the whole way through. First-timers, women exploring on their own terms, and couples trying something new are all genuinely welcome, and there's no such thing as a silly question. A quick, honest word on fit, though: I'm at my best with a little notice and a clear idea of what you're after, so if you need someone in the next hour with no warning, or you're chasing the cheapest option rather than the right one, I'm probably not your man, and that's fine. But if you want someone experienced, discreet and genuinely invested in you having a good time, you'll struggle to find better. When I accept a booking, it's because I'm confident I can make it excellent.

How do consent and safewords work in a session?

Good kink is built on consent and communication, however intense the scene. Before anything starts we'll have a proper conversation about what you want, what's off the table, any health conditions, injuries or triggers I should know about, and how far you'd like to be pushed. I use the traffic-light system used by many in the kink world, but the meaning can vary between people.

For me:

• Green means carry on.
• Amber means "I'm happy, but approaching my limit, please don't go faster/harder".
• Red means "Stop, I need a break or need to communicate something to you". Red is honoured the moment it's used. It doesn't end the booking, but it ends the current play and opens the door to easy communication.

Gagged? There's a non-verbal signal for Amber and Red too. You'll never be without the ability to communicate your boundaries. You will be given one limb of consent. It may be a foot, a hand or your head. It depends on how you're bound and what is easiest for me to see. You'll be told which limb I'm looking at.

• Amber: one tap of a limb / shake of your head.
• Red: two taps/shakes, or a consistent back-and-forth tapping/shaking.

Nothing happens that we haven't talked through first. You will see the kit I've brought at the beginning of the scene, which will be based on what you've asked for. Unless you've specified you'd like "straight to scene", you'll have a chance to see and ask questions / revoke consent to anything I have with me.

Thirteen years in means I can read a scene and adjust as we go. Sometimes I may call a red myself if I need to talk to you, but you always hold the brakes. That control is exactly what lets people let go.

Intense play can leave you buzzing or, a day or two later, a little flat (that's normal, it's called sub-drop), so aftercare is important. How that works exactly is very individual, and you can let me know what works for you, or I can try to help you work that out. It's normal to feel thirsty or cold when you push yourself. Water is always available, temperature controlled; some quiet time can be offered at the end; a debrief is always given; and a check-in message the next day if you'd like one. Looking after you properly at the end is as much my job as anything that comes before it.

Whilst this section is primarily aimed towards my kink clients, casual sex bookings can also find relevance here. Good sex releases a lot of endorphins, and if that ends abruptly, that can have the same 'drop' effect. I'll ensure our time together never feels abrupt at the end, and the same next-day check-in text is offered if you would like one.

How do you protect my privacy, and how does screening work?

Discretion runs both ways. It's a core principle of how I work and the expectations of others in the industry. Your identity, your reasons for booking, the specifics of what you enjoy and the fact we ever met stay strictly between us.

Some commitments:

• Privacy. I don't discuss clients. Who you are and what you enjoy always stays private.
• Media. Photos and videos. I don't keep media of anyone who hasn't given permission for me to do so. If we haven't spoken for a long time and there's no longer relevance to holding onto media, it will be deleted. Media featuring you will never be shared without written consent. All people who feature with me in my galleries are friends with model-disclaimer contracts or clients with written permission. Such permission can be revoked at any time.
• Data protection. I hold personal, identifiable and sensitive information about my clients, from your account, your booking forms and your communications with me, written or verbal. I treat this information carefully. I am registered with the ICO, the UK's data protection regulator, as a data handler. My devices are protected with complex passwords, and my website is protected with layers of protection from phishing attacks, URL-interception attacks and modern direct database-hacking techniques. No expense has been spared to secure the site against any attacks which could lead to data leaks. You can see the specific technical measures in the website security section of my privacy policy. When you book, you will be asked for a choice of SMS, WhatsApp or email to communicate through. WhatsApp is my preferred option, as the end-to-end encryption offers an additional layer of privacy.
• Data retention. I hold financial records of bookings for 7 years, as is required by HMRC. Specific, non-financial information, however, is only held for as long as it's subjectively relevant. If it's unlikely we'll meet again, I will no longer need to keep records of what you enjoy, boundary lists, contact details etc. Now that you can create an account on my site and book directly without texting me, it's never been easier for you to control your own personal data. Rather than having to ask me to delete it, you can now simply log into your account, the sole place your information is stored, and delete your data yourself (I can still do this myself on request). Only financial information will then be stored.
• Names. I ask that you give me a name to call you by, but I don't need to know your real name. A real name or a pseudonym works just as well.
• NDA. I have been asked by some clients, primarily public figures, if I am open to signing an NDA, and the answer is yes. It probably doesn't make sense to go that route for a 30-minute booking, but I'm comfortable signing an NDA. I've done them before, and I don't mind exchanging the relevant details needed.

A practical point on marks

Several activities I offer can leave temporary marks; impact play bruises, canes can welt, wax reddens the skin. How much of a mark you're comfortable with, and where, is entirely your call, and we agree it before we start. If a visible bruise would be a problem at home, at work or at the gym, tell me and I'll keep everything to areas covered by clothing. Discretion isn't just about who sees us meet; it's about what you take away afterwards.

How do you handle sexual health, hygiene and cleaning equipment?

Condoms

Your health and mine both matter to me. I test regularly and comprehensively from home, using test kits from test.me, as do my partners. Condoms (and lube) are always provided for play, whether that be between you and my partner, me with you, etc. The condoms I use for sex are premium Skyn-branded. They are latex-free (polyisoprene). Stronger than traditional latex condoms and safer, they feel much nicer and are friendly to the 4.3% of the population who are allergic to latex.

For insertable toys, I default to traditional latex condoms such as Durex; however, if you are sensitive to latex, let me know and we'll stick to Skyn for those too. My partners and I do not use condoms provided to us by clients for penetrative sex (toys are no problem). If gloves are needed, I will use nitrile for the same reason.

Showering and environment

My incall is kept spotless, with fresh towels and time to shower before and after if you'd like. I will also always be freshly showered (unless requested not to be). If I'm visiting you at your home or a hotel and have had to travel a longer distance, I may request a shower, especially on a hot day.

Cleaning of toys

Toys are fully sanitised between every client. Attachments and toys are body-safe medical-grade silicone (all of my dildos are platinum silicone, the very highest grade) or non-porous. If you'd like to have your own toy which is only for use on you, you have two options. You can bring your own with you and take it home at the end of the booking. Or, if you can't take it home with you, leave it with me at the end and I will keep it for our next booking (only to be used with you) or dispose of it.

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